Life in the Slow Lane

Life in the Slow Lane

Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Feeling Just Fine, Thanks.

Well another Valentine’s Day is here and yet again I am single for it. Unlike most single gals this doesn’t bother me in the least. I am honestly not the slightest bit lonely or upset about it. And I really couldn’t even tell you why except that I have never thought my single status reflected poorly on me. I have really never felt that I NEEEEEEDED a man to be happy. It is very true for me to say when I hear all the funny/weird/terrible relationship issues that my friends go through I just hang up the phone and feel nothing but relief that my life is not complicated that way. And I feel this relief far more than I have ever felt lonely. Perhaps I think this way because when I look back on my past serious relationships I mostly remember the hard times. The sad times. The times being lied to and cheated on. And worst of all feeling so lonely while being in a relationship. I have felt far lonelier with a man in my life than I have ever felt being single.

There is so much pressure to be hooked up in this world and I admit to feeling it sometimes. Especially lately now that I am the last single chick in my whole circle of friends. Everybody else is married/long termed hooked-up and all but three couples have kids. And one of those couples who don’t is working on changing that as I type. I do feel like the odd duck out but I cannot say that I look at any of my friends’ relationships and envy them. None would suit my needs and desires. I don’t covet anybody’s situation and am perfectly happy with my single status.

I’d even say I probably think it may be considered weirder that I am honestly happy being single than the fact I am without a man. Does that make sense? Everybody just expects that a single woman would be desperately looking for a guy. Simply, I am not and have no immediate plans to.

I just figure that if I go along with my life and do the stuff I love then I might meet somebody in my everyday routine. And if I don’t then….I don’t. Or maybe one day internet dating might pique my interest but not at this moment it doesn’t.

I do celebrate Valentine’s Day as my Dad has ALWAYS been my special guy so we exchange wee gifties. I got a lovely bunch of flowers from him today in beautiful pinks and purples. I feel very loved and cherished by him.

And this Valentine’s Day, unlike others in recent history, I am actually deeply in love. I fell hard over the weekend while looking at dog rescue sites and put in an application to adopt a Min Pin/Chihuahua mixed dog with the sweetest face I have ever seen. I have looked at dozens of dogs and most squeeze my heart. This little pooch actually made me weep when I saw her. Competition is fierce and I haven’t heard back yet if I even get an interview so please pray and send out good poochie vibes my way.

No matter if you are single or married or in that whole dating stage I hope your day is wonderful. Don’t wait for others to treat you well. Treat yourself well and you will never feel alone.

13 comments:

elizabeth said...

yay for puppy love! sending lots of good poochie vibes. i'm dying to see a krankipuppy.

happy and blue 2 said...

Happy Valentines Day..
Hope you get your dog..

sharkey said...

Crossing my fingers and hoping you get a canine valentine.

alan said...

Hope Yoshi doesn't mind sharing!

:o)

As far as the rest of your post goes, I can't begin to imagine dating in this "brave new world". I wouldn't know where or how to begin!

And as far as dogs go, you're probably better off with the 4 legged kind...

alan

ladybug said...

----- Don’t wait for others to treat you well. Treat yourself well and you will never feel alone.-----

this is the BEST line i have read in all the valentine day posts i read yesterday and this morning :)

i love that your dad and you are each other's valentines! my dad used to send me flowers at times during college, usually three pink carnations in a bud vase (my favourites) and all my friends wanted to steal my dad - HAHA! being a daddy's girl is such a good thing...

good luck with the pup application! min pin are FUN little dogs!

Circe said...

Beautifully put, sweetie, and the perfect attitute to have regarding one's status in Relationshipville. And I fervently hope you get the poochie of your choice!!!

east village idiot said...

Kranki - you're the best. If only all women could read this post. It's the best valentine's message ever!

Squirl said...

Any guy you'd be with has some mighty big shoes to fill. Your father sounds like a great guy. :)

Your post is really at the heart of what feminism was supposed to be about. Not about man-hating, but being comfortable in your own skin without having to be part of a couple.

Good for you!

shannon said...

Good luck!!!!!

JP said...

Kranki, you have a singular perspective. Very cool!! Poochies are fun! I have my girl, not Sharkey, laying right here next to me having puppy dreams...

eclectic said...

Kranki, you are so cool! And your advice is excellent -- for everyone, whether in a relationship or not -- treat yourself well.

Thinking good thoughts that you'll get the doggie you want!!

hemlock said...

I love that you and your dad have made Valentine's day a special day for you guys. That's awesome.

I agree whole heartedly that Valentine's day is just another day to show your love and that you should be the first to show love to yourself.

lawbrat said...

I can't begin to tell you how much this post touched me. I'm not single, yet so many times I feel like I'd be much happier and more content with just myself.

This post very eloquently says what I've been feeling for quite awhile.

Thank you for that, and for being you.