Well another Valentine’s Day is here and yet again I am single for it. Unlike most single gals this doesn’t bother me in the least. I am honestly not the slightest bit lonely or upset about it. And I really couldn’t even tell you why except that I have never thought my single status reflected poorly on me. I have really never felt that I NEEEEEEDED a man to be happy. It is very true for me to say when I hear all the funny/weird/terrible relationship issues that my friends go through I just hang up the phone and feel nothing but relief that my life is not complicated that way. And I feel this relief far more than I have ever felt lonely. Perhaps I think this way because when I look back on my past serious relationships I mostly remember the hard times. The sad times. The times being lied to and cheated on. And worst of all feeling so lonely while being in a relationship. I have felt far lonelier with a man in my life than I have ever felt being single.
There is so much pressure to be hooked up in this world and I admit to feeling it sometimes. Especially lately now that I am the last single chick in my whole circle of friends. Everybody else is married/long termed hooked-up and all but three couples have kids. And one of those couples who don’t is working on changing that as I type. I do feel like the odd duck out but I cannot say that I look at any of my friends’ relationships and envy them. None would suit my needs and desires. I don’t covet anybody’s situation and am perfectly happy with my single status.
I’d even say I probably think it may be considered weirder that I am honestly happy being single than the fact I am without a man. Does that make sense? Everybody just expects that a single woman would be desperately looking for a guy. Simply, I am not and have no immediate plans to.
I just figure that if I go along with my life and do the stuff I love then I might meet somebody in my everyday routine. And if I don’t then….I don’t. Or maybe one day internet dating might pique my interest but not at this moment it doesn’t.
I do celebrate Valentine’s Day as my Dad has ALWAYS been my special guy so we exchange wee gifties. I got a lovely bunch of flowers from him today in beautiful pinks and purples. I feel very loved and cherished by him.
And this Valentine’s Day, unlike others in recent history, I am actually deeply in love. I fell hard over the weekend while looking at dog rescue sites and put in an application to adopt a Min Pin/Chihuahua mixed dog with the sweetest face I have ever seen. I have looked at dozens of dogs and most squeeze my heart. This little pooch actually made me weep when I saw her. Competition is fierce and I haven’t heard back yet if I even get an interview so please pray and send out good poochie vibes my way.
No matter if you are single or married or in that whole dating stage I hope your day is wonderful. Don’t wait for others to treat you well. Treat yourself well and you will never feel alone.